Thursday, October 11, 2012

How to be Your Own Therapist


Let's face it, I'm a pretty stable person. 

Even Beau says, I'm always the same in my moods and feelings, even though internally, I think ... "Wow, I feel irritated/moody/grumpy/sad today." He doesn't see it, so I guess that proves I have a good way of hiding it. But, I tell you the truth ... (WORDS OF WISDOM TO FOLLOW ...) As you get older, hiding your feelings or emotions gets way more difficult. Gross.

Now .. where was I going with this ...

Oh, right ... sometimes things come up in your life and mine where we need a little therapy session.

I have found that I'm quite good at being my own therapist.

Reasons why this works for me:
1. I'm cheaper than any professional ... actually better than cheap ... FREE.

2. I'm pretty smart.

3. I know myself better than any doctor or stranger.

And, I do a pretty good job most of the time.

Typically, my counseling sessions go like this, just in case you want to follow in my footsteps the next time you have an issue:
1. I get upset/mad/freak out over something, ranging from hurtful words spoken or encouraging words not spoken to the disciplining of my children to worry about multiple life situations.
(This phase could last some time, possibly days, but could also only last a few minutes, depending on the emotions of the day.)

2. I, first, take the unwanted feeling and move it to the back of my mind to think about at a later date unless emotions get in the way. If emotions show up, the feelings must be faced a few minutes longer, then the moving around can begin. One can't always do therapy sessions in the middle of a day while life is happening. These things take time.

3. I wait for some good downtime to really think about why I'm feeling the way I am.

4. I ask myself multiple questions and then answer them ... a conversation with myself, if you will. (Wow. I do need therapy.)

5. I determine whether my feelings are being fed by a lie. If they are, then I grab God's Word and let Him speak TRUTH to me. That part's easy and problem solved. I just have to make sure I BELIEVE it.

6. If my feelings are justified, I determine whether the feelings are even worth my time.

7. I determine whether I have to confront something or someone. THIS IS THE WORST PART!

8. I decide if I'm actually going to confront or if I can let it go. Lately, I find I lean towards the latter. Sometimes it's just easier to forget and move on. The tricky part comes in when it continues to come up and HAS to be dealt with. Yuck.

9. I confront myself or someone else. Double yuck!

10. Hopefully, issue gets resolved and then I can move on ... until the next one. But, best of all I gain wisdom and grow!

You're welcome.

Disclaimer: Professional therapy is probably better. Maybe.

4 Comments:

Penny said...

Lol, you crack me up!! My "therapist" is usually my husband -- who is a therapist. Sometimes, when I DON'T want "therapy," I say, "Don't you go all therapist on me!!" But he's SO good at doing exactly what you listed here. The only problem, though, is usually I don't want to listen, ha!

Tammy said...

ha! I love this! You have just confirmed that I am not crazy. Oh wait, maybe this just confirms that I am...and you are too. If we find one more person to join our craziness, maybe we can get a group rate!

Tammy said...

ha! I love this! You have just confirmed that I am not crazy. Oh wait, maybe this just confirms that I am...and you are too. If we find one more person to join our craziness, maybe we can get a group rate!

Tammy said...

It took me four times to prove that I was not a robot! I was beginning to get a little worried and doubt my human origin. WHEW! LOL